You never hear anyone talk about ‘The Great Indoors’ – and there’s probably a good reason for that.
After all, a healthier, more fulfilling life begins the moment you step outside your own four walls and explore the world around you. And that’s as true for those in later life as it is for everyone else.
Even if an elderly loved one can’t get around like they used to, a simple change of scenery could be exactly what they need to keep their spirits high – not to mention prevent everything from diabetes to heart disease. The good news is that whether they fancy a nearby jaunt or a getaway in Europe, they aren’t short of options these days. It’s simply a matter of finding inspiration.
That’s why we’re here: our guide will help you put together a day your whole family can enjoy. We’ll give you a few ideas to get you started, and talk you through the considerations you might need to bear in mind ahead of your trip. Plus, we’ll introduce you to a whole range of dementia-friendly options that are making trips away increasingly effortless for families dealing with the condition.
From countryside walks to world-class museums, there are lots of great days out in Britain for those in later life.
Accessibility has improved enormously over the past couple of decades, and you’re bound to find all sorts of support to help you arrange a successful day. This means there’s no need to compromise: your loved one can pick and choose the sorts of things they’ve always enjoyed doing or wanted to do.
So where might you want to go? Here are some ideas to get you started.
There’s nothing like fresh air and a stretch of the legs to recharge your elderly relative’s batteries. A walk through tranquil countryside or to a local beach is a great way to do just that, and one the whole family can enjoy.
Even if your loved one’s mobility is limited, you’ll find there’s no reason to look elsewhere for that big day out. There are lots of websites dedicated to wheelchair-friendly walks, including Accessible Countryside for Everyone, Euan’s Guide, Walks with Wheelchairs and The Outdoor Guide. You’ll also find an accessibility guide on the government’s national parks website.
Keen gardeners might like to take a look at one of the many gardens participating in The National Open Garden Scheme (NGS). This annual event provides a great opportunity to peek into other people’s patches, and see the hard work of over 3700 people who open up their private gardens for the visiting public. You can find out the nearest gardens to you in the NGS online directory.
The National Trust also has 200 formal gardens and parks to explore around the UK, many of which host special events throughout the spring and summer. And there’ll always be a tea shop for a welcome cuppa and a piece of cake at the end of your walk!
Reserves and sanctuaries
The RSPB has done a lot to ensure its bird reserves across the UK are accessible. They provide full information on dedicated accessibility pages on its website, and in an illustrated, downloadable access statement for each reserve.
Support includes visitor centres with accessible toilets and cafes and dedicated Blue Badge parking bays. There are a range of short and long routes to choose from, all with wide, level paths, regular resting places and seated bird hides. You can also hire mobility scooters and wheelchairs.
For a more intimate setting, you might want to try a local animal sanctuary or a bird centre, such as the Bird of Prey Centre in Bedfordshire. Petting zoos and farm visits are also an option, though many may not be suitable for wheelchairs and walking frames.
Both the National Trust and English Heritage are custodians of some of the UK’s most beautiful buildings and grounds – and the tea shops are hard to beat.
They’ve done a lot of work to make their locations as accessible as possible, and most offer disabled toilets and visitors centres on site. But it’s important to check out your chosen building ahead of time, as some may not be fully accessible given their architecture.
You can consult accessibility maps online, or call the property ahead of time for information. And if you think you’ll make visits a regular habit, look into becoming a member of the organisations for benefits such as free entry and invitations to special events.
Whatever sport your loved one’s into, all major venues should have support in place to cater for a diverse range of mobility needs.
The Queen Elizabeth Olympic Park in London, for example, was purpose-built for the 2012 Olympic Games and Paralympics, and has numerous accessible venues, including the Copper Box Arena and the London Aquatics Centre. You’ll find other great suggestions for accessible venues – from cricket grounds to football pitches – on AgeUK’s dedicated page.
Keep in mind that if your loved one has been diagnosed with dementia, they may struggle with the noise and amount of people. But there are often smaller, local sports events which might help you meet them in the middle: smaller horse racing meets, tennis matches and local football matches, for example.
Theatre and cinema
If the arts are more your loved one’s thing, you’ll find lots of opportunity to indulge their love of them.
Many performances often have special rates for older people during weekdays, making it a particularly cost-effective option. In theatres, you’ll likely have to stick to the stalls at ground level, but ask about accessibility ahead of time and they may well be able to provide disabled seating in the upper circles.
Museums and displays
There are plenty of museums to explore around the UK, from the local to the world-class.
London is full of great collections, including the British Museum, V&A and Imperial War Museum. But open-air museums are harder to come by, so you’ll need to travel outside the M25 to visit the Beaulieu National Motor Museum, RAF Cosford or Duxford Air Museum. All of these benefit from lots of space and good accessibility.
If your loved one is sight impaired, there are often large text, braille and audio tours available to enhance the experience The Royal National Institute of Blind People (RNIB) can provide more information on this sort of thing.
Ride on a steam train
Relive the good old days with a ride on a steam train, while enjoying lunch and the sights of rural Britain. It’s a great trip for the whole family, and keeps those who need mobility support in mind. With ramps from platforms and wide passageways, these steam trains have been lovingly preserved and are a great way to see Britain.
You can find the nearest steam route near you on the Visit Britain, the UK & Ireland Heritage or Welcome To Scotland websites.
If you’re still short of inspiration for outings and fancy exploring a bit more, The Carers Trust charity has a list of ideas to act as a starting point, while OpenBritain provides a simple way to find accessible destinations and places to stay around the UK.
Throw away any ideas of spontaneity: a successful day out with a loved one or someone living with dementia will depend on thorough planning.
But this isn’t to say that it should be a stressful task: there’s plenty of information out there to help support you, as long as you know what it is you need to think about. Take time to tick off the considerations below before any day out, and you’ll be safe in the knowledge all your loved one’s needs are covered.
“Plan, plan, plan! You should always have your day trip planned out in advance so you’re a lot less likely to have any hiccups along the way.”Graham, Trip Ability
One of the most important things to know ahead of time is how you’re going to get to your destination.
Driving is probably your best option. If your loved one has mobility issues, they may be entitled to a Blue Badge, which gives you permission to park in priority spots. You might want to double-check that these special parking bays are available, and, if not, what the parking situation is. After all, you don’t want to find you have a big walk to the attraction when you get there.
It’s worth staying fairly local if you can – at least for the first outing – to gauge how well your loved one deals with the car journey. Other things to consider when deciding on your route are whether there are any toilet stops on the way, and the time of day you’re travelling. Try to avoid travelling in rush hour, as you don’t want to get caught up in an unnecessary delay.
Trains are also a reliable option. If you’re planning to use public transport for your day out, you ought to look into booking assistance ahead of time. Most train companies have assisted travel pages on their website, where you can request help for both the station and the train. Make sure to do this a minimum of 24 hours before you travel.
If your loved one has mobility issues, it’s important to check the accessibility of your proposed destination in advance.
You may, for example, want to find out if there are any stairs to climb and lifts to help, or check there are paths suitable for mobility scooters or wheelchairs. If you arrange a walk with longer distances involved, think about arranging a wheelchair even if your loved one doesn’t normally use one. You can often prebook them, but keep in mind that demand is often high.
Websites like disabledgo.com and wheelmap.org list wheelchair-accessible places, or find specific information on websites, such as the RSPB or the National Trust and English Heritage both of which offer accessibility guides to their buildings and grounds. The Rough Guide to Accessible Britain is another useful resource.
If you’re planning on heading out on a walk, think carefully about the route and make sure it’s not too taxing, either in terms of distance or gradient. And build in plenty of rest stops to any visit you do. Your loved one may not want or need them, but at least you’ll know where to get a good cup of tea.
A good rule is to start small: do activities for short periods of time, or go somewhere local. You can build up to more ambitious outings over time if your loved one is keen to do just that. If it’s ever too overwhelming, there are plenty of activities to do at home until they feel more up for an outing.
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Both carers and the elderly are often entitled to concessions, both at attractions and for public transport. Take the time to investigate any cost-saving opportunities, with special carers’ tickets, OAP concessions and disabled concessions.
If you’re travelling by train, you can save a third on your loved one’s rail fares with a senior railcard. It costs just £30 for the entire year – an expense you’ll quickly recoup if you use it just a few times.
Food and drink
Most attractions have shops or a café, but be sure to take snacks and drinks with you as well. You don’t want to run the risk that it might be closed or unable to cater to your loved one’s dietary requirements.
You should be able to find information about menus and accessibility online, or by getting in touch with the destination directly. But you might just want to take a picnic to avoid questions of whether they’ll be able to provide what your loved one needs and enjoys.
Hydration is particularly important. If you’re going for a jaunt in the countryside, having a ready supply of water could make the difference between making a day of it and turning back early. Dehydration can lead to fatigue, cramping and breathing difficulties, so make sure you’re proactive about keeping it at bay.
Take the time to research the toilet facilities at your destination, to avoid getting caught out on the day. Changing Places is a great online resource to help you to learn more about the available facilities.
It’s also worth joining the Radar Key scheme, which provides access to 9000 disabled toilet facilities in the UK. Radar Keys cost about £5 and can be bought from the Disability Rights UK shop, or from participating local authorities (though some councils give them away for free). You can also get your hands on a National Key Scheme guide, which lists the location of every Radar toilet, and the mobile app, with walking and driving directions: both cost £5 each.
Preview the day
If your loved one is concerned about going somewhere new, try showing them the place you are going to ahead of time to put their mind at ease.
You’ll be able to find images using Google search, or by looking on the attraction’s own website. You can also find a 3D panoramic preview using Instant Street View, or go on a virtual visit with The Rough Guide to Accessible Britain.
There’s no way to guard against little surprises that may pop up on the day, but if you’ve planned well, you should be able to adapt quickly to changing plans.
There are still a few key things to think about on the day, though, so let’s take a closer look at what they are.
What to pack
– Money and identification
– Map or SatNav
– Radar Key for disabled access to toilets
– Blue Badge
– Food and drink
– Mobile phone with emergency contact numbers
– Suitable clothing and footwear
Start on the right foot
Check travel updates for your planned route before you leave in case of delays or road closures, and make sure everyone has a good breakfast, a drink and a toilet break before you head off.
Small things like the type of bag you pack can make a big difference: a small backpack may be easier to carry than a satchel or tote bag, and leave your hands free to assist your loved one or push their wheelchair.
Dress for the occasion
If you’re all ready to go on your trip, don’t let a bit of rain put you off.
Now if you were intending to go on a country walk and it’s raining cats and dogs, you might want to rethink your plans. But in most cases, as long as you wear appropriate attire – and pack wellies, umbrellas and anoraks – there’s no reason you can’t still enjoy your day. And it’s just as true if the sun’s out, too: remember to keep topping up your loved one’s sun cream and drinking plenty of water.
Get the show on the road
No matter how well you plan your journey, it might still cause your loved one some anxiety on the day itself. Look into support for getting out and about with the elderly if it eases their worries.
If you’re driving, you’ll likely want to stop regularly to give them a chance to stretch their legs. Music and snacks can also help keep them calm when traffic starts to get a little hectic, and you can avoid big jams altogether with a SatNav.
If you’re travelling by public transport, arrive in plenty of time to get a cup of tea and assistance with boarding. You may want to take a blanket if travelling in autumn or winter in case of a draught.
Make the most of your day
When you arrive, introduce yourselves to on-site staff and let them know how they can help. That way, you’ll get a good idea of where you can go and what you can do, and they’ll get to know how they can support your loved one along the way.
Make sure you take everything you need with you, from medication to bottles of water, as you might not be able to come back to the starting point for some time. And don’t forget the camera, so you can take lots of photos!
Go with the flow
While it’s important to prepare properly, it’s even more important to be flexible.
The challenges of later life can affect even the best-laid plans, and sometimes the best days out look completely different from how you imagined them. Either way, you can use the information you’ve gained from this day out to make the next one even better.
Once you’ve built up a bit of confidence, you might be inspired to try a longer break.
Depending on the level of care your loved one needs, it’s worth looking at both independent holidays and those organised by specialist operators to see which would best suit your needs.
Whichever you choose, the key to success is the same: prepare properly and plan accordingly. Do your research with your loved one’s needs in mind, and you’ll be in the perfect position to spend some top-quality time together with those who mean the most to you.
Key questions to ask yourself
– How long will you go for? You may opt for a short break in the first instance, to get a better understanding of how successfully your arrangements work
– Where do you want to go? There are plenty of opportunities abroad, but you might even want to make a weekend of going somewhere in the UK you’ve never been before
– What sorts of things you want to do? For some, a holiday is an opportunity to relax and get some reading done. For others, it’s all about seeing the sights
– How much care will your loved one require? Looking after the needs of an older person over an extended period can be tiring and may not feel like a holiday at all without the right support. You might want to think about bringing a carer on holiday with you to help out, or book a specialist break where support is on hand
If your loved one doesn’t require too many specialist considerations, joining the family holiday can be a great option.
Keep an eye out for the basic requirements if you’re booking a hotel room: you might want to check there’s a lift and disabled bathroom access. And think about booking an adjoining family room, so you can look in on your loved one to check they’re okay at night.
By renting a holiday home, your family may find it easier to relax and enjoy the break at their own pace. You’ll have communal living areas, and can rest easy that if your loved one wants to stay home, they’ll be comfortable and secure. Just make sure you know the floor plan beforehand so that there are no accessibility issues – a ground-floor bedroom with an ensuite might, for example, be a good idea as would investing in travel-appropriate mobility aids.
And if dry land isn’t really your thing, the Canal and River Trust provides information on accessible boating trips for people with disabilities and mobility impairments. That means you can explore the UK’s canals and riverways at a slow chug, enjoying a cup of tea on deck together while the kids run off their energy along the towpath.
An organised break doesn’t offer as much flexibility as one you arrange yourself, but can make getting everything sorted far easier. The cost often includes food, flights and accommodation all in one, and, when you’re there, you’ll find activities run by qualified professionals.
Escorted rail and coach tours – such as those offered by Shearings or Age UK – are popular and can provide good structure and an itinerary of interest for loved ones. Taking your elderly relative on a cruise with operators like Saga or Princess can be another good option, giving you a way to get out of the UK without the hassle of flying.
Great resources for information on travelling in later life include The Silver Travel Advisor and Enable Holidays.
As the attention placed on dementia in the UK grows, more and more attractions are offering initiatives and activities with the condition in mind.
This means even if your loved one’s been diagnosed, there’s no reason they have to miss out on trips away. In fact, getting out and about could be the best thing for them: day trips can prove stimulating, keeping the mind and body ticking over and the condition at bay.
So what sort of activities are available for those with dementia? Here are a few of the most popular options.
Trips which resonate with your loved one’s past can prove particularly rewarding and enjoyable.
It doesn’t have to be a complicated affair – even a walk on a pier where they spent time when they were younger can be a great way to evoke memories of the past. This, in turn, can help keep their mind active when they need it most.
Museums and galleries
Many museums and gallery spaces now provide programmes just for those with dementia.
High-profile museums with innovative dementia-friendly programmes include the Liverpool Museum’s House of Memories, Manchester Museum and Whitworth Art Gallery, Royal Albert Memorial Museum and Art Gallery and the Dulwich Picture Gallery. There are also plenty of smaller organisations doing excellent work across the UK. If you have a place in mind you’d like to visit, it’s worth doing some research to find out what sorts of programmes and events it offers.
Arts4Dementia, meanwhile, develops activities at arts venues to re-energise and inspire people in the early stages of dementia. You’ll find a searchable database of fun things to do on their website.
Many cinemas now offer dementia-friendly screenings of popular films – skipping adverts and trailers before the screening and keeping lights up during the film itself.
If you and your loved one enjoy going to the cinema on a regular basis, you might want to look into buying a CEA Card, which gets you a free ticket when you accompany the person you care for.
Go for a drive
An easy and relaxing afternoon together can be something as simple as taking a loved one with dementia out for a drive around areas they perhaps remember from childhood, or that they once worked in. This can often stimulate memories and give you both a chance to share and talk about past times. A short drive can also be a calming activity if someone is agitated.
Specialist dementia swimming sessions are offered through a Swim England initiative at many leisure centres. If you don’t want to swim yourself, these sessions have volunteers that will go into the water with your loved one to assist them.
A dementia diagnosis doesn’t mean holidays are now off the table. In fact, you may be surprised just how many options are on offer for those living with the condition. Flying with someone living with dementia might seem challenging, but there are ways to lessen the stress for everyone. Alternatively, there are plenty of great holidays in the UK for those living with dementia.
MindforYou offers supported holidays for people living with dementia and carers, as does Revitalise. But for longer breaks, look at the work being done by organisations such as Dementia Adventure – a charity offering everything from canal boating to fell walking.
If you’d personally like to build your confidence up around taking your loved one with dementia out, an organised group could be a good way to start. The Alzheimer’s Society and a number of other dementia organisations run special groups designed for family members who know someone with dementia.
And if you just need a few extra ideas, the Care and Connect app can help you to find places that are dementia friendly. You’ll find heaps of reviews to advise on the ins and outs of a variety of different activities.
Key things to consider
– Avoid overly noisy and crowded activities and times of day
– Keep plans and activities simple, and unnecessary information to a minimum
– Tackle activities in short bursts to help with concentration
– Try going outdoors: getting fresh air can often prove more successful than staying indoors
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That’s why, when you get in touch, we take our time to get to know your loved one. We’ll find out where they like to go and what they like to do, and what sort of trips they might want to go on. And we’ll handpick a carer who shares their passions, who will take them to see the things they want to see and visit the people they want to visit.
In short, you’ll can rest easy knowing they’re still getting out and about, while receiving the highest quality of care possible.