Elderly behaviour problems: how to deal with challenging behaviours in elderly

Whilst these developments in behaviour are not a person’s fault, it’s important they are managed properly. If not, it can affect your loved one’s mental health and wellbeing – as well as that of their carer.

Not only that, but behavioural problems can also lead to older people withdrawing from their friends and family leading to increased isolation. 

While caring can be an incredibly rewarding job for home carers, it’s not without difficulties, particularly when  providing a comprehensive programme of home care for someone who is displaying unpredictable and/or challenging behaviours.

It’s always important to select the right carer for your loved one. If a loved one is displaying behavioural problems, a carer with the requisite experience will be able to implement specific strategies to mitigate these behaviours.

Why do elderly parents display challenging behaviour?

Behavioural problems are often very personal, and keeping a record of them will help to identify whether your loved one has any particularly unique triggers.

If you and your loved one’s carer understand what triggers certain behaviours, it might be possible to prevent them from happening so frequently. Emotional and practical support with  behavioural issues is one of the key areas in which a home carer is able to provide help and reassurance.

Some common triggers include:

• Tiredness
• Change of routine
• Noise
• Pain/discomfort
• Significant life events
• Changes in working/living environment
• Medication
• Difficulties communicating

Strategies for managing challenging behaviour

It can be challenging to know how to effectively deal with behavioural problems – your loved one may not realise how they are acting or how their behaviour is affecting others.

It’s important not to be drawn into arguments, no matter what the provocation. Try to reclassify their bad behaviour as distress about their circumstances, rather than seeing it as anything personal, it may help to realise that your loved one is taking out their anger on you because they know that you will accept it, and they are unable to express their unhappiness in any other way.

There are a variety of strategies that you can use to try and manage your loved ones’ behaviour. If possible, try to discuss the anger with them and tell them how it makes you feel, as there is a good chance they haven’t stopped to consider your feelings. They may be shocked to discover they have upset you.

If this doesn’t help, then you should try to take a few moments away from them if it’s safe to do so, as this may give them time to reflect on their behaviour.

Try to identify the root of the problem – if it is a more serious cognitive issue such as dementia then it is best to consult a professional, but it may be a sign of something else.

Where possible set firm ground rules and implement practical routines – this can be particularly helpful for those living with dementia or Alzheimer’s.

Other than that, simple things such as practicing consistent and clear communication and staying calm where possible should always be a priority.

Of course, if the behaviour is a direct result of an underlying medical problem such as dementia, then you may need to accept that you need help to care for your loved one.