1. Home
  2. Care Advice
  3. elderly care

10 Misconceptions About Ageing and Getting Old

The 10 misconceptions about ageing and getting old are:

  • You’ll feel your age
  • You’ll experience a decline in brainpower
  • You’ll get stuck in a rut
  • You won’t be as happy
  • There’s no escaping frailty
  • You’ll slow down
  • You’ll be burdened with the effects of empty nest syndrome
  • You’ll give up on learning new things
  • You’ll become socially isolated
  • You don’t control your destiny

Ask most people, and they will tell you that age means a variety of new hurdles - isolation and resistance to change, to name just a few. However, due to the diligence of both researchers and scientists, many of the most often repeated clichés have been shown to be, if not false, at least an exaggeration. We look at some of the most commonly held beliefs about growing older, and how applicable they are to today’s ageing population.

You’ll feel your age

Often the opposite is true. Research shows that the gap between the chronological age and the ‘felt age’ actually grows wider, the older a person gets. Almost 50% of those surveyed who were in the 50+ age category reported that they felt between ten to 19 years younger than their actual age.

You’ll experience a decline in brainpower

Many experts believe that the decline in the power of the middle-aged brain has been overstated. Indeed, mathematical prowess, verbal reasoning, and abstract/spatial skills tend to improve as we reach our middle years.

It seems likely that, as the brain ages, it employs strategies to compensate for any decline in cognitive prowess, such as using both sides (hemispheres) when problem-solving. Interestingly, the brains of those who are bilingual seem to be more resistant to both dementia and other degenerative conditions, perhaps because they have strengthened over the years by needing to process so much extra information.

If your elderly parent or relative has dementia, there is a wealth of support out there to help them, and considering care at home, with specialist dementia assistance, could be a good option to consider.

You’ll get stuck in a rut

No matter how old you are, implementing changes that will benefit your health, such as giving up smoking, are always worth doing. It’s never too late to quit a bad habit or start a good one, such as exercising or eating healthily. Indeed, beginning a gentle exercise plan such as walking or swimming has been shown by some studies to slow the rate of cognitive decline in adults who previously lived a sedentary life.

You won’t be as happy

On the contrary, many of those surveyed stated that middle age was their happiest life stage. Although it appears that happiness often takes a knock during the 40s, researchers have produced evidence that once we hit the big 50, we tend to feel a lot more relaxed and content, which is good news for those heading towards retirement.

There’s no escaping frailty

While osteoporosis is certainly more common in older people, a high percentage of older people never show any signs of this disease.

You’ll slow down

While certain illnesses are more common among elderly people, a fit and healthy person of retirement age has no particular need to slow down regarding their fitness, unless they choose to do so. Indeed, many younger people are put to shame by members of the older generation, some of whom continue to run marathons, play tennis at a high level or even swim the channel. Never say never!

You’ll be burdened with the effects of empty nest syndrome

Some studies have shown that having an empty nest often makes for a happier marriage. Far from feeling depressed about the fact that the kids have grown up and moved out, many so-called ‘empty nesters’ revel in the opportunities this stage of life offers - forging new friendships, starting new hobbies and enjoying life to the fullest.

Dulcie’s care story

Dulcie is one of our longest serving customers. In this video, she and her family talk through their decision to arrange care in the home rather than the care home.

You’ll give up on learning new things

Long gone are the days when older people were assumed to stagnate with every year. Today, the concept of ‘neuroplasticity’ - essentially the ability of the adult brain to alter its function and structure depending on experience - has been widely embraced by both the science world and the wider community. To put it another way, you certainly can teach an old dog new tricks!

You’ll become socially isolated

While there’s no getting away from the fact that many older people are socially isolated, it’s not a given, by any means. With age comes a more finely honed sense of social intelligence and empathy, meaning that we get more proficient at reading people, at interacting socially and avoiding confrontation.

That’s why staying social is so critical for older people and is something that companion care is ideally designed to support. If you opt to arrange 24-hour elderly care for your relative, they will receive targeted support in reaching out socially to friends and family or even starting a new hobby or interest.

You don’t control your destiny

This is not true, according to the results of one well-received piece of research that studied 500 people over a 60-year period. It found that achieving a happy old age is influenced by seven factors. These are being a non-smoker, drinking habits, stability of relationships, body mass index (BMI), exercise, education and coping mechanisms.

‘Successful ageing’ is defined as being in decent health, having sufficient social support, not suffering from (irreversible) disabilities and having a good standard of mental health. These factors were considered alongside more subjective ones, such as how enjoyable respondents found their life to be, and how competent they were at carrying out everyday tasks. In summary, while we will inevitably all age, we may be able to have control over that process and make it a positive experience.

Call us for expert live-in care advice
0333 150 2350

Related Questions

Alzheimer's: How to Care for Ageing Parents

There may come a time when we realise our parents or relatives aren’t able to live alone any longer. Old age and age-related issues such as Alzheimer’s create safety concerns, and these become a constant worry. However, we neither want them to move into a home nor do they wish to live in residential care. The question then arises whether live-in care is an option. Can care given by a live-in caregiver be a better option, and is it an affordable one?

Read more »

How to Care for Elderly Parents: Caregiver Tips

Caring for elderly parents is a role reversal that few people find particularly easy. For those of the older generation, it means having to give up a degree of independence and their life-long role as the parent figure. For the adult child, taking on the responsibility of parenting your own parent can be difficult to come to terms with. However, there are steps you can take to minimise the problems.

Read more »

Live-in Care: What Does a Live-in Care Provider Do?

Live-in care is, in the most basic terms, a full-time, bespoke care-at-home service that will allow your older relative to stay safely in their own home, surrounded by their treasures and familiar things.

Read more »

Old Age and Diet: Does It Make a Difference?

As we grow, our nutritional needs change, from birth through to a senior age. Eating well is important for all ages to provide the right nutrition for health, vitality and quality of life. Unfortunately, many older people, for a variety of reasons, are not eating as well as they could, which leads to poor nutrition or, in some cases, malnutrition, which can be mistaken for an illness or disease itself.

Read more »

Preventing Falls: How to Care for Ageing Parents

With the majority of people wanting to live at home for as long as possible, the best way to care for your ageing parents is to ensure that their home is as safe as possible, with the aim of preventing any falls from occurring. Falls can also happen outside the home, especially in winter, so it is important to consider all the areas that you can have some positive influence over.

Read more »